Spring Awakening: What Women’s Obsession With Ruby Rose Says About Sexuality + Society in 2015

Ruby Rose is breaking the internet. But unlike Kim Kardashian, she’s making a cultural impact.

The smoldering 29-year-old Australian actress/model/DJ is the latest addition to the cast of Netflix’s wildly successful series, “Orange is the New Black.” On the show, Ruby plays the role of Stella Carlin. But, according to social media, Ruby is now playing an even more interesting [and unlikely] role — lesbian heartthrob for straight women.

Combining a soft, made-up face with a hard sense of style — complete with tattoos and a slicked-back crop cut — Ruby masterfully straddles the gender-bending line between masculine and feminine sex appeal. She’s the poster child for androgyny.

It’s trendy for straight women to have a “girl crush” — that is, admiring a woman who is so beautiful, so fabulous, and so successful that they, in essence, want to be her. But the magnetic obsession with Ruby is different. Straight women don’t want to be her — they, apparently, want to be with her. And that’s a first.

But this actually makes sense, because “OITNB” has already produced a very strange and intriguing cultural phenomenon. It’s gotten hetero gals en masse to watch — lesbihonest — a predominantly sapphic show. For the first time (ever?), mainstream media is navigating the “alternative lifestyle” frontier through main characters, and it seems to be sticking with audiences.

Regarding “OITNB,” one of two things has happened. Either the writers intentionally and slyly duped millions of straight chicks into watching the prison version of “The L Word” (in which case Stella is giving Shane a run for her money), or hetero women are knowingly watching and enjoying a — gasp! — non-hetero show. And they don’t GAF.

The latter would say a shit-ton about where we are as a society; as a nation.

Aside from the astronomical sociopolitical advances the LGBT community has enjoyed over the past few years, an increasing number of some of Hollywood’s most relevant female figures have come out as spectrum sliders, including: Miley Cyrus, Cate Blanchett, Cara Delevingne, Evan Rachel Wood, Ke$ha, Shailene Woodley, Fergie, Michelle Rodriguez, Anna Paquin, Megan Fox, Amber Heard, and Tinashe.

As a result, it seems straight-identifying women are becoming more comfortable with having more options to, well, identify with. Many are also acknowledging, through cultural incidents like the Ruby Rose craze, that sexuality is not black and white.

There are undoubtedly countless women who, having binge watched season three of “OITNB,” are laying awake at night trying to untangle and interpret their mystical attraction to Ruby. What does it mean? Am I a lesbian now? 

NEWSFLASH — you can incidentally be attracted to a woman, and it doesn’t nullify your attraction to men. It simply adds to the beautiful complexity of your sexuality. And that’s not a bad thing!

Through “OITNB” and Ruby Rose, we are witnessing a rigid, close-minded society make a metaphorical U-turn, and redirect in a very ambiguous, openminded, label-less direction regarding, not only sexual orientation, but gender as well. And Ruby’s viral fandom may be a sign that we’ll soon reach our destination.

We caught up with LA Lady Founder Jennifer Mergott, whose commentary on the subject was most enlightening. She says:

“There’s a line in OITNB, where Piper says, ‘What? You don’t consider yourself to be a woman?’ Ruby’s character, Stella, replies, “I do, but that’s only because my options are limited.” I think part of the newfound obsession with Ruby Rose comes from a growing intolerance for gender norms. Ruby represents — in an exceedingly beautiful package — what it means to reject society’s definitions and rely solely on your own. And what is more attractive than that — especially to women who are born into life as the disenfranchised gender — is to be strengthened by the undefined rather than pigeonholed in fear. It’s sexy and subversive, provoking and powerful. People are attracted to Ruby Rose because she seems to remind us of what we can be. Free.”

Ah, yes. Freedom. Freedom from labels, judgment, intolerance. Freedom from the shackles of the irrelevant and archaic. Freedom to feel without questioning, translating, or dreading the meaning of those feelings. Freedom to be unapologetically as we are.

It’s not a girl crush. It’s an awakening.

The Edge of Glory: Six Underrated Songs By Superstars

You know the artists, and you know their hits, but you might not know the songs on this list. And trust us, they’re worth knowing. 

6. “Lolly” by Maejor Ali feat. Justin Bieber & Juicy J

It was one of the many songs released during Justin Bieber’s “troubled” phase, and thus “Lolly” didn’t exactly pop on the charts. But the music video, which boasts a shirtless, drool-worthy J.B., performed exceptionally well on YouTube with nearly 130 million views at press time. If Bieber hadn’t been so ferociously off-turning at the time of its debut, the song could have landed more radio airplay and consequent fame for its relatively unknown headliner, Maejor Ali (who has since dropped “Ali”). In an effort to reduce some of his bubblegum appeal, and add a more grown-up edge, it was Bieber’s first notable rap verse on a track — despite a few prior freestyle sessions. Even to a non-Belieber, the verse is surprisingly decent — albeit PG-13 — as the then-underage star delivers visions of baller lifestyle #goals, like poppin’ Pellegrino, drivin’ an El Camino, and the luxuries of always being on the guest list, among other things. If you like this side of Bieber, allow us to also suggest “Twerk,” his little-known collaboration with Miley Cyrus. And that brings us to our next song…

5. “Do My Thang” by Miley Cyrus 

It’s hard to believe it’s been less than two years since Miley Cyrus released her last album, “Bangerz,” given how much has happened, and changed, during that short timespan. Though the 22-year-old’s previous album, “Can’t Be Tamed,” warned us about Miley’s natural inclinations and secret desires, nothing could have foreshadowed the utter upside-down-turning of Miley’s image, sound, and attitude that evolved with the former Disney star’s third studio album. The psychoactive drug-inspired party jam, “We Can’t Stop,” and conversely sincere break-up ballad, “Wrecking Ball,” skyrocketed on the charts as Miley’s first and second single, respectively. There was also the underwhelming “Adore You” that barely demands remark. But no song on the album captures Miley’s #IDGAF chutzpah quite like the contagiously self-confident “Do My Thang.” Our favorite part is:

Don’t worry about me
I got it all arranged
Mind your business
Stay in your lane, bitchhhh. 

Damn, that feels good. It’s also the perfect anthem for a liberally progressive generation full of twenty-somethings who refuse to do anything, or be anyone, that doesn’t fit into the strict confines of their self-image and aspirations. It’s a darn shame this song didn’t receive more acclaim than the occasional instagram video [usually] of a gay dude fiercely lip-syncing the lyrics.

4. “Speechless” by Lady Gaga

On an album chock-full of Euro-inspired dance tracks, “Speechless” hardly fits in. Especially after rising to stardom from an uber poppy, I-drank-too-much-tequila anthem like “Just Dance,” listeners are understandably thrown off by the Broadway-esque power ballad. But the seemingly misplaced track on “The Fame Monster” is a glimpse at a truer, less commercialized artist, tapping into Gaga’s theater-heavy roots and tortured soul. It’s also a likely preview of who the once-upon-a-time NYU Tisch School of the Arts student would like to be, were it not for album sales, oppressive record label demands, and mainstream pop music protocol. Regardless — we see you, Gaga.

3. “Dark Fantasy” by Kanye West

Some Kanye West fans would call “Dark Fantasy” one of the hip-hop prodigy’s greatest works to date. The sophisitcated production, which includes an utterly dope piano accompaniment and a brief British interlude by Nicki Minaj, serves up some of Yeezy’s keenest commentary yet on the mixed curse of fame and fortune. There are stylistic choices and moments that forecast “Bound 2,” theatrical elements reminiscent of “Jesus Walks,” and philosophical echoes of “Welcome to Heartbreak.” It’s an unbeatable first impression, previewing what’s to come on Yeezy’s critically-acclaimed album, “My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy,” which produced hit singles like “Runaway,” “Monster,” and “All of the Lights.” The aforementioned tracks performed exceptionally well on the charts, but for whatever reason, “Dark Fantasy” peaked at No. 60 on the Billboard Hot 100. For that reason, it’s something of a hidden gem.

2. “All Things Go” by Nicki Minaj

She’s six singles deep into The Pinkprint, but “All Things Go” remains veiled in the un-promoted shadows — probably because the track lacks Nicki’s usual upbeat, Barbie/Roman-infused bravado. And it’s a shame that this low-key, rawly emotional peek behind the curtain — and lamenting recount of the loss of her cousin (“to a senseless act of violence”) — reveal a rarely seen, unstripped Onika. It’s a bit tragic that we don’t see more of this, and less of the “Truffle Butter” garbage. Because, in fact, Nicki Minaj is a tremendously talented and deeply expressive artist. And while no one can deny the contagious nature of her bubbly pop hits, I hope we begin to see tracks like this secure as much promotion as their inferior counterparts (I’m talking to you, “Anaconda”).

1. “I Know Places” by Taylor Swift

I suppose it’s too early to throw in the towel with any of the songs on Taylor Swift’s “1989.” The formidable superstar has already had three No. 1 hits, and “Bad Blood” is just getting started. But “I Know Places” takes on a different sound from what T-Swift has showcased thus far on her fifth studio album. The mystical intro is certainly T.S. post-pop crossover, with its layered auto tune and electronic flare. But then, something unexpected happens. The chorus smoothly reverts back to a Taylor from another time — not so much 1989 as 2009. There are distinct sonic and thematic similarities between “Love Story,” one of Country Taylor’s first hits, and “I Know Places” — both conveying visions of a romantic great escape. We’re comparing: “Baby, I know places we won’t be found and they’ll be chasing their tails trying to track us down” to “Romeo, take me somewhere we can be alone. I love you and that’s all I really know.”

The difference, however, is that “Love Story” details a young girl’s cinematic delusions of a fairytale escape from overbearing parents who ~just don’t understand~, while the latter serves as a darker, jaded, all-grown-up sequel from a woman who’s experienced true heartbreak. In “Love Story,” Taylor is a helpless victim. In “I Know Places,” she has taken control, unwilling to be a victim any longer. The “1989” track is no doubt a reference to being burned by all the hot, flashing lights and prying journalists of T’s industry — the irony, of course, being that the very entity burning the starlet is the same source extinguishing her flames.

Rewarding Bad Behavior: Why Do We Still Listen To Chris Brown?

Chris Brown can’t help himself.

He does something shitty, goes to jail/rehab/therapy, “reforms” for a hot minute, and then does something shitty again. His laundry list of verbal and physical outbursts (mainly against women), crazy offensive social media posts, and general douchebaggery is never-ending. (Seriously, it’s exhausting — take a gander at his Wikipedia page.)

Breezy’s temper is as unpredictable as the wind. Just in the last week or so, he’s blatantly disrespected and degraded a female crew member on a private flight, dissed Caitlyn* Jenner, and thrown a temper tantrum at on-and-off-again girlfriend Karreuche Tran’s doorstep at 3 a.m. The latter resulted in the police being called. ClASSy. 

Bottom line: He’s a violent, scary dude. But we knew that already.

Let’s not forget the incident that started the public downward spiral. Of course, I’m referring to that time Chris beat the shit out of Rihanna, sending the “FourFiveSeconds” singer to the hospital looking like this:

Take a good look at this picture. She’s got a split lip, black eye, and multiple bruises and marks.  Then ask yourself, How could this be? How could America support the career of a man who is capable of this? A man who continues to act out? See also: Floyd Mayweather, the new American “hero.”

If the Rihanna episode had been an isolated incident, after which Chris had worked hard to sincerely reform and become a decent guy, I could probably forgive him. And I could also probably listen to his music without wanting to punch someone (which I wouldn’t do, because I’m not Chris Brown).

As someone who works in the music industry — specifically radio — I regularly question why this horrible human being continues to attain mainstream airplay across the nation. Is the decent music he puts out more important than standing up to domestic violence and refusing to tolerate barbaric behavior? Do we, as a society, care so little about women that we’ll celebrate the work of a man who shamelessly abuses them?

Right now, Chris Brown has four singles on the radio, including: “Ayo,” “Five More Hours,” “Post To Be,” and “Fun.” It’s inarguable — he has a good voice and the beats are fire. He sounds smooth and effortless on any and every track he encounters.

Cool. Awesome.

There are plenty of vocally-gifted dudes out there who could fill in the void if Breezy’s music career went under. Justin Bieber, Jason Derulo, Usher, Ne-Yo, Jeremih, Jay Sean, Taio Cruz, Trey Songz, Jacob Latimore — the list goes on.

In general, men forgive Chris for what he did to Rihanna, and women are willing to overlook it — to enjoy his music. Worse yet, people treat it like it’s irrelevant. “That was years ago.” “He did his time.” “Who cares if he’s a tool? His music is dope!”

How f*cked is that?

And further, what kind of a message does that send to America’s youth? Scratch that. What kind of a message does it send to women? As a woman, it tells me that violence is excusable — and a catchy club song more important — to my culture than the safety and wellbeing of my sex.

So, Americans have made their choice. Instead of taking action , we foolishly continue to support Chris Brown’s empire, and Chris Brown continues to act a fool.

 

Billboard Burglary: 10 Pop Hits That Were Robbed Of The #1 Spot

From Justin Bieber to Michael Jackson, Britney Spears to Lady Gaga, you won’t believe which pop mega hits never conquered the coveted No. 1 slot on the Billboard Hot 100.

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“Payphone” by Maroon 5
Peaked at: No. 2 | July 7, 2012
No. 1: “Call Me Maybe” by Carly Rae Jepsen

It was the soundtrack of the summer of 2012, and one of seemingly innumerable chart-topping, record-breaking hits for the pop-rock band. The jam boasted an unusual collaboration (for Maroon 5) with a rap verse by Wiz Khalifa. It was infectious, nostalgic (because pay phones are so retro), and a welcome change for a veteran band whose sound was struggling not to go stale. But Adam Levine and the gang were up against one of the most viral songs of the decade–newcomer Carly Rae Jepsen’s impossibly catchy “Call Me Maybe”–and the latter wasn’t going anywhere. (What’s up with the phone-themed songs?)

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“Boyfriend” by Justin Bieber
Peaked at: No. 2 | Apr. 14, 2012
No. 1: “We Are Young” by Fun.

Despite a record-breaking first week in digital sales—and sugary promises of “chillin’ by the fire while eatin’ fondue” with Justin Bieber—the 21-year-old’s “swaggy” pop beat failed to dethrone Fun.’s six-week run at No. 1, peaking at its debut spot of No. 2. What is, perhaps, even more shocking is that “Boyfriend” soared higher on the charts than any other single to date by the Biebs, including “Baby,” “As Long As You Love Me,” and “Beauty And A Beat.”

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“Quit Playing Games (With My Heart)” by Backstreet Boys
Peaked at: No. 2 | Sept. 6, 1997
No. 1: “Mo Money Mo Problems” by The Notorious B.I.G. feat. Puff Daddy & Mase

The name is one of the most recognizable in boy band history–setting an example for subsequent tween obsession phenomena like One Direction, 5 Seconds of Summer, and the Jonas Brothers–and “Quit Playing Games (With My Heart)” was undeniably the group’s break-out hit. Unfortunately for BSB, Biggie Smalls was at the height of his career, and snagged the top spot that week. This was the closest the Backstreet Boys ever got to No. 1–even “I Want It That Way” only reached No 6. Ugh—quit playing games with my heart, Billboard Chart!

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“Turn Down For What” by DJ Snake & Lil Jon
Peaked at: No. 4 | June 14, 2014
No. 1: “Fancy” by Iggy Azalea feat. Charli XCX

It was one of the most contagious party jams of 2014, and still manages to get crowds going like no other. Much more than a song, “Turn Down For What” became a catch phrase; a go-to hash tag across social media; a lifestyle statement for vivacious millennials whose collective motto is work hard, play harder. But the Billboard Hot 100 did turn down that week—for Iggy Azalea’s “Fancy.”

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“Heartless” by Kanye West
Peaked at: No. 2 | Feb. 21, 2009
No. 1: “Crack A Bottle” by Eminem, Dr. Dre & 50 Cent

If nothing else, Kanye West is brilliantly unconventional, forever lingering just far enough outside the box to remain completely unpredictable. Simplistically composed, yet ingeniously avant-garde, “Heartless” was no exception—slaying Top 40 standards, going 5x Platinum, and inspiring countless notable celebrity covers. And yet, even Yeezy couldn’t knock the unshakeable trio behind “Crack A Bottle”—Eminem, Dr. Dre, and 50 Cent—out of the No. 1 slot, stalling at No. 2.

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“Drunk In Love” by Beyonce
Peaked at: No. 2 | Feb. 15, 2014
No. 1: “Dark Horse” by Katy Perry feat. Juicy J 

It was the surprise album drop heard ‘round the world when Beyonce released her eponymously titled fifth studio album in late 2013. Though “Drunk in Love” received cult-like reception–becoming the go-to anthem for alcohol-induced love affairs everywhere—the “Crazy in Love” sequel shockingly never hit No. 1 on the #Billbort Hot 100. Instead, it peaked at No. 2–’cause Katy Perry came at Beyonce like a dark horse.

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“I Knew You Were Trouble.” by Taylor Swift
Peaked at: No. 2 | Jan. 12, 2013
No. 1: “Locked Out Of Heaven” by Bruno Mars

No one has straddled the pop/country line as successfully–and gracefully–as the enviable force that is Taylor Swift. “I Knew You Were Trouble.” was the 25-year-old’s first bold step away from her country-leaning roots, as well as the first glimpse of Taylor Swift 2.0. The universal vulnerability of the lyrics–coupled with an uber catchy dub step vibe–tugged at the heartstrings of bad boy-scorned girls everywhere, forcing them to dance, cry, and shout the chorus bitterly to their own personal heartbreaker. Yet somehow, the break-up ballad never reached the summit, effectively leaving T-Swift “locked out of Heaven.”

“Bad Romance” by Lady Gaga
Peaked at: No. 2 | Dec. 5, 2009
No. 1: “Empire State of Mind” by Jay-Z feat. Alicia Keys

If she hadn’t already done so with “Just Dance” and “Poker Face,” Lady Gaga certainly secured her spot in the metaphorical pop star hall of fame with the Europop-inspired, French-infused “Bad Romance.” Unfortunately for Mother Monster, the timing was off, as one of the greatest New York City pride ballads to ever grace our ears had already skyrocketed to No. 1, and would remain there for five weeks, leaving Gaga in second place. But the pop diva wasn’t too heartbroken, as the single later garnered two Grammy Awards.

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“Thriller” by Michael Jackson
Peaked at: No. 4 | March 3, 1984
No. 1: “Jump” by Van Halen

Though Michael Jackson is no longer with us, his mighty reign endures through the generations, and “Thriller” (with its legendary accompanying music video) could be Michael’s most generationally-transcendental hit. For a ‘90s kid like myself, who missed out on the King of Pop’s most iconic years, “Thriller” is one of a handful of songs I recognize and know the lyrics (and dance!) to. But it was an extraordinary week for music back in March of 1984, and Mr. Jackson was trumped by Van Halen’s “Jump” (No. 1) and Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls Just Want To Have Fun” (No. 2).

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“Oops!…I Did It Again” by Britney Spears
Peaked at: No. 9 | June 10, 2000
No. 1: “Maria Maria” by Santana feat. The Product G

It’s almost impossible to believe that one of the most deliciously classic pop hits of the millennium never so much as reached the Top 5 on the Billboard Hot 100, peaking at No. 9 the week of June 10, 2000. This is especially mind boggling when you consider Britney’s lesser-known hits like “Hold It Against Me,” “3,” and “Womanizer” all made it to No. 1. “Oops” may not have won the heart of the Billboard, but at least Brit has the Heart of the Ocean.

Which of these hits is most surprising to you? Let us know in the comments below! 

MUSIC: Never Have I Ever w/ Andy Grammer

Does Andy Grammer kiss on the first date? Has he ever joined the mile high club? That and MORE in our game of Never Have I Ever!

#ImAGirlBoss: DJ Coco Robert

Name: DJ Coco Robert
City:
 New York
Industry: Music
Twitter: @cocothedj
Instagram: @cocothedj
Website: cocorobert.com

Tell us what you do!

As much as possible. I DJ for companies and brands like the NYC Ballet, SCOOP and Equinox. I collaborate on projects involving clothing lines, products, and more recently, apps. I’m curating a series of summer events for Rise City Swimwear. I produce online content for VH1/MTV and write on their music blog… though I’m feeling a little disloyal right now, considering I also have a Lifetime television series being shot in my apartment.

Did you go to college? If so, where?

I first thought I should have a true “college experience.” Luckily, my mother reminded me how easily I could get bored in New York, and how much that would be magnified in a college town, so NYU ended up being my one and only application. I actually transferred into University of Southern California after freshman year, but never booked my flight once I figured out that, at NYU, I could pull off graduating in three years.

How did you get to where you are now? Tell us your story!

I’ve always wanted to work, even growing up — before I had any reason to. If my sister and I didn’t have lemonade to sell, I’d pop popcorn. In high school, I would offer to intern for anyone in a cool industry who said I was too young to work for them. Often I just made up things I could do for people. I met a partner in a well known denim company, and hosted a casting call for their campaign. A string of supermodels came out of the dressing room in the label’s jeans, and it was just 16-year-old me behind the desk, asking them to turn for polaroids.

Three personal traits/qualities that helped you get to where you are:

Independent, driven, passionate.

Define “girlboss” in your own words.

A woman who continuously sets and exceeds daring goals, utilizes doubt as motivation, remains unconcerned about stereotypes, norms, or expectations, and capitalizes on the knowledge that success is dependent on herself.

Describe your style/fashion sense:

My closet has lots of leather and lots of black t-shirts. I like to stick to basics and then add one or two striking pieces. I’ll wear high-waisted printed pants with a plain tank, or all black with a stand out blazer.

Favorite brand right now?

The Row

Go-to clothing item/accessory right now?

My slouchy black Alexander Wang bag. It’s simple enough to bring to the gym in the morning and classic enough to transition into the night.

What’s your can’t-live-without beauty product?

A good lip balm.

Go-to nail color?

Black or nude.

What makes you feel badass?

The look on tourists’ faces when I jaywalk on my way to MTV Networks in Times Square.

No girlboss is perfect. What’s your vice?

Chocolate chip cookies, joy rides, online shopping, and a good bubble bath.

What song makes you feel like a girlboss?

“Diva” by Beyonce

What’s a quote that inspires/motivates you?

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

Best advice you’ve ever received? And who gave it to you?

“You can do that.” – My mom, on everything.

Advice to future girl bosses:

The only difference between impossible and possible is that the former is even more rewarding to accomplish.

MUSIC: Remixing + Recycling

Hey guys, there’s a killer new song out!!!

Except it’s not that new. At all.

AlunaGeorge‘s “You Know You Like It” — the song everyone and their brother has been banging their heads to for exactly a week — has been around for YEARS (it was first released in August 2011!!!). Like many other underground-turned-Billboard hits, it didn’t receive any real attention until 2014 when a DJ remixed the track. Talk about recycled novelty. That DJ is, of course, DJ Snake — the same dude behind 2014’s mega-hit, “Turn Down For What.”

I had never heard of the song — or the artist behind it — until Tuesday. Now it’s the only thing I hear every time I turn on the radio and/or queue up my Spotify playlist. I’m obsessed.

Another track that achieved delayed acclaim was Krewella’s summer smash hit, “Alive,” back in 2013. It was first released in June 2012, but it wasn’t until April 2013 (after being re-released) that the deliciously 90s-esque, EDM-infused pop track started causing buzz. The first time I heard the song, I felt déjà-vu; like I had heard it in my dreams in 1997.

Now, that’s a damn good jam.

Sadly, Krewella hasn’t done much since. And there was some controversy in 2014 between sisters, Jahan and Yasmine, and their producer, Kristopher “Rain Man” Trindl, after which the latter resigned.

Similar to “You Know You Like It” — but on a smaller scale — Ron Pope released “A Drop in the Ocean” in 2008, and heard radio silence until 2011 when the quaint love ballad was featured in a momentous scene of a Vampire Diaries episode. Eminem even remixed the track with Kanye West and Wiz Khalifa.

I recorded a track back in 2012 with rapper Mike Philson. It didn’t explode on social media the way we hoped it would, but in 2015, I still firmly believe it could be radio material with the right DJ remix.

And I love it when this happens to a track, because it reinforces all sorts of “don’t give up” rhetoric. If you’ve created something good, and something you believe in, keep molding, building, and sharing it. No song is ever truly complete. At any time, it can be remixed, covered, sampled…

Music is forever a work in progress.

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#ImAGirlBoss: Lara Parker

I love talking to people who work at BuzzFeed. Not only do they have, like, THEE MOST KICK ASS JOB EVER AND I WANT TO BE THEM — but also, they’re super articulate, and witty, and ridiculously cool in general. Lara Parker and I connected on instagram a few months ago, and I quickly fell in love with her amazingly hilarious sense of humor and incredibly vulnerable honesty (read this!). It quickly became clear to me that she was a #girlboss, and that I should share her #girlboss-ness with all y’all.

NAME: Lara Parker (that’s like Lara Croft)
AGE: 23
CITY:
 Los Angeles
HOMETOWN: Morgantown, IN (I’ll give you $5 if you’ve heard of it)
INDUSTRY: Editorial — I’m a WrItEr
SIGN: Taurus baby
TWITTER: @laraeparker
INSTAGRAM: @laraeparker
WEBSITE: laraeparker.com

Tell us what you do!

I am a staff writer for the Los Angeles bureau of BuzzFeed. I write (mostly), tweet a lot, and blog in my free time. I write a lot of BuzzTeam (insert list joke here), but I’ve also dabbled in some personal essays.

Did you go to college? If so, where?

I graduated from the University of Indianapolis in 2013 with a degree in Communication that focused on Public Relations. Very Samantha Jones meets Indiana. Kidding. It’s a small liberal arts college on the southside of Indianapolis that has a fake Starbucks, but a ton of cool people.

When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you “grew up”?

I wanted to be a marine biologist mainly because I thought I would be the one to discover that mermaids are, in fact, real. This might still happen — that’s all I’m saying. It doesn’t matter that I puke on boats and don’t know how to dive. Minor details.

How did you get to where you are now? Tell us your story!

Like many college students, I entered my junior year of college not knowing what the hell I was going to do with my life. Everyone around me was all like, “I have this internship, and this job, and this perfect life.” And I was like, “Um, I really like watching Bravo?” One particularly low day, I was on Tumblr, and saw this quote about traveling to find yourself. I had always wanted to study abroad, and after spending a month in Greece after my sophomore year, the travel bug infected me.

That night I started researching places to study abroad — and just like that — I decided I was going to go to Australia. It sounds so cliché now, but for the first time that year, I felt like I had finally found my path. I feel like we all search for that path… and going to Australia my senior year was mine. While I was in Australia, I started a blog to keep my family updated with the things I was doing down under. I started noticing that more and more people began to read it. It was insane to me that people cared about what I had to say, but what was even more insane was how much I enjoyed it. I kept blogging, and when I returned to the states, I didn’t stop. I started writing about everything. During that time, I got diagnosed with some health issues, and that’s when I realized how important writing was. Not just for me, but for everyone to know that they’re never really alone. I kept writing and writing and then I discovered BuzzFeed, and applied for their editorial fellowship straight away.

Any obstacles along the way?

I was actually turned down by BuzzFeed. I sat on my couch and cried for a bit, then decided that I wasn’t done yet. So I applied again, this time for a Travel Intern position — and I got it. However, a month into my internship, the travel vertical was kind of becoming obsolete, and they didn’t need a travel writer as much. So I had to kick my ass into gear and really prove myself. In March of 2014, I was offered a full-time position, and I’ve been here since. Proof that you really can’t give up on your dreams, even if everyone else has.

Who is your idol?

I have too many idols, almost all of them being women that I follow on Twitter. Women are amazing, you know? Fucking amazing. And the more women I meet, the more in awe I become.

Three personal traits/qualities that helped you get to where you are:

Courage. Adaptability. Optimism.

Where would you like to be in five years?

I want to still be writing, but also expanding my scholarship in memory of my late best friend, and helping women all over the world with healthcare. I never want another woman to have to go through what I, and so many others, have gone through to find out what’s going on with our bodies. I want to be sitting in a Starbucks, and hear someone talk about having a painful vagina, and know that it’s no longer taboo or weird in any way.

Define “Girl Boss” in your own words.

Being completely yourself with absolutely no apologies and allowing everyone else to do the same.

Describe your style/fashion sense:

Forever 21 meets Buffalo Exchange meets I saw someone wearing this and googled it until I found out where they bought it.

Favorite brand right now?

ASOS. Mostly because I’m too lazy to shop anymore, and I just looked through my browser history, and there’s a lot of that.

Go-to clothing item/accessory right now?

HATS. Never have a bad hair day again.

What’s your can’t-live-without beauty product?

GIMME BROW by Benefit — it’s an eyebrow brush but also a life changer. Take my word for it

Go-to nail color?

Black like the emo girl I always wanted to be when I was 16.

Coffee order?

I don’t drink coffee, so I order a hot chocolate with caramel, and pretend it’s coffee because coffee sounds cooler

What makes you feel beautiful?

Making other people smile.

What makes you feel badass?

Writing openly about my struggles and being able to say, “this is hard.”

Sophia Amoruso’s #GIRLBOSS inspired me. What book has inspired you?

OK DEEP DARK SECRET HERE … but If The Buddha Dated. It’s about finding love on a spiritual journey, which I’m not that into — but it’s also about refusing to settle and kicking bad dating habits, which I am VERY into.

No Girl Boss is perfect. What’s your vice?

I eat the fuck out of Spongebob Push Pops — ORANGE BURST FLAVOR — while watching “Southern Charm.” No one is perfect, OK?

Which artist/band/DJ are you really into right now?

Always, always obsessed with twenty one pilots. They just GET me.

What song makes you feel like a Girl Boss?

“Comeback” by Ella Eyre — girl don’t take no shit, and neither do I. HAHA, sometimes.

What’s a quote that inspires/motivates you?

“If you don’t build your dreams, someone else will hire you to help build theirs.”

Best advice you’ve ever received? And who gave it to you?

“Be on your own side.” -My friend, Will Schnabel

Advice to future girl bosses:

Don’t do something to prove others wrong. Do it to prove yourself wrong.

STYLE: Festival Fashionista

As RN’s resident boho gal, I couldn’t not do a write-up on festival fashion.

This season, I’m all about the brami. It’s the perfect hybrid of bra-meets-camisole. Wear them on their own for those long, hot festival daze, or use them as a base layer to add a flare to any outfit. I wear my Free People bramis year round for a little extra detail under almost anything!

Flowy, breezy bottoms and fitted tops play well together. Pair with some strappy sandals for an effortless boho chic look. When accessorizing, I love natural stones and muted metals for an earthy vibe.

Shop my favorite festival looks below!

Free People LA Nite Tank

[Left – FP Me user: fpsammifran, Right – FP Me user: fpmeganreigh]

Free People Salt Water Textured Short + Go Go Goa Cami
[FP Me user: nikkicloud]

Free People Lace Up Brami 

Free People Dewa Cutwork Strappy Tank

Free People Oliviera Wrap Sandal

 Free People Coyote Split Maxi Skirt 

FP ONE Battenburg Bralette 

Urban Outfitters Urban Renewal Recycled Destroyed Roll-Hem Short

Spell & The Gypsy Collective Xanadu Strappy Jumpsuit

Jen’s Pirate Booty Durban Tunic Dress

 

Free People Stone Wrap Armband

Schutz x REVOLVE Erlina Sandal 
Free People Womens Savoy Weekender

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#ImAGirlBoss: Erika De La Cruz

NAME: Erika De La Cruz
AGE: 24
CITY: San Diego + Los Angeles
HOMETOWN: Los Banos, CA
INDUSTRY: Entertainment + Broadcast Media
SIGN: Taurus
TWITTER: @_ErikaDeLaCruz
INSTAGRAM: @Erikadelacrz
WEBSITE: Erikadelacruz.com/blog

Tell us what you do!

I’m a radio personality. I serve as Promotions Director and Video Entertainment Host for Easy 98.1 FM. I also just wrapped hosting the Fashion Week San Diego Spring Showcase. What’s sleep?

Did you go to college? If so, where?

San Diego State University — #GoAztecs!

When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you “grew up”?

Peter Pan’s girlfriend! Aside from those aspirations, I wanted to “put on shows for people,” and often subjected my family to theatrical narrations, dances, and rap routines.

How did you get to where you are now? Tell us your story!

I grew up in a really small town — Los Banos, CA! When it came time for college, I attended SDSU. After a ton of “different ideas for majors,” I got my degree in Communication & Media, with an emphasis in public speaking & interview. Along the way, I picked up as many internship/volunteer opportunities, and went to as many office hours, as possible to integrate myself into a community of people I wanted to learn from, in industries I wanted to learn more about. I started working in LA doing some red carpet correspondence on the weekends and fell in love. Then started working on a Morning Show in radio in San Diego, which I also loved, and eventually found that — in this industry — fashion, pop-culture and all the other stuff I love are often part of the deal! I love this multi-media world. 

Any obstacles along the way?

I definitely experienced some set backs, like the economy circa 2009. That lovely economy threw a few huge hurdles my way — financial aid, foreclosure, loosing a few loved ones. But from that, I think I developed skills that, to this day, are the reason I’m pursuing what I love. I feel like sometimes there’s an expected “surrendering” reaction when drastic, unexpected things happen (the easy route), but instead I reacted with, “Nope, I’m going to maintain every last detail of my life, thank you very much.” I think the obstacles can push you to really fight to stay in what I call the “Winners Circle,” (optimism/drive/accomplishment.) Sure, you have to fail at things sometimes, but I think aiming to stay in that circle gives you a consistent target!

Who is your idol?

Keltie Knight really inspires me! Her positive energy and instinct to lift and encourage other women is contagious. Ellen De Generous, Ivanka Trump, and Will Smith are pretty amazing, too.

What are three personal traits/qualities that helped you get to where you are?

-Belief meeting Behavior (Praxis)
-Gratitude
-JU JU ☺

Where would you like to be in five years? On your television.

Define “Girl Boss” in your own words.

She pursues her passion, and puts her strengths into killing it every day. She inspires, and lifts others, and has genuine desire to “tag team it” with like-minded individuals. She trusts her dream and aspirations, and that’s what makes her tick. I’ll credit Marie Claire for the term “Passionista,” which I’ve taken to heart. I literally have it taped to my wall; it embodies the #girlboss for me.

Describe your style/fashion sense:

Classic. I gravitate toward pieces that are flirty, but still elevated. I really enjoy bright solids, and have an unexplained weakness for jumpsuits.

Favorite brand right now?

BCBG Maxamara.

Go-to clothing item/accessory right now?

Topshop basics. All of them.

What’s your can’t-live-without beauty product?

Buxom mascara. 

Go-to nail color?

French Tips. Like to keep it classy!

Coffee order?

Café au lait (fancy for: coffee with frothed milk). 

What makes you feel beautiful?

Getting dressed up is fantastic, but I’m a sucker for a cute pair of PJs while your hair is still done! Slipping into a pair of “matchies” or a “nighty” after a show makes me feel super cozy, cute and HAPPY!

What makes you feel badass?

Nailing a project. There’s no better feeling than doing the prep work for a segment or event — and killing it. I feel like I’m great with the “idea” portion, but the will power comes in the research and leg work for me. After the follow-through, I feel pretty #badass. 

No Girl Boss is perfect. What’s your vice?

Project Runway. I will sit forever, unproductively lost, in that show.

Which artist/band/DJ are you really into right now?

Can Taylor Swift and Ed Sheeran just form a band? I feel like it’s possible.

What song makes you feel like a Girl Boss?

“Blank Space” by T-Swift.

What’s a quote that inspires/motivates you?

There are so many! Here are a few I really like:  “Belief does not sit on the couch and wait for success to show up.” –Bob Proctor “You can fail at doing something you don’t want to do, so you may as well go for your dream.” – Jim Carrey “You can never be over dressed or over educated.” -Oscar Wild

Best advice you’ve ever received? And who gave it to you?

When I started working in-studio for the very first time, I had an amazing morning show host guiding me — “Lenny B” of More Music Mornings. I stepped into my first “big conference room” meeting with the rest of the company department reps, and I was a little bit intimidated, not wanting to stand out for having a bright PINK laptop cover and a glittery violet phone case. I was already the youngest and one of the only females in the room, so I took off both before the meeting so I didn’t stick out like a sore thumb. But afterward, Lenny asked where the heck my “Erika” stuff went? And reminded me that I had gotten there because of being me, and to never be afraid of that. *Maintain Authenticity. That’s what I learned. It applies to so many situations and decisions that have come along since. You can’t really connect with people until you’re comfortable in your own skin. And for interviewing, that’s especially important.

Advice to future girl bosses:

Don’t let challenges scare you! See them as opportunities. Surround yourself with people who inspire you, and are on your team, because you eventually develop the same mindset and habits as them. Get as many internships as you can. And be nice to everyone — it will come full circle!